Reality check for your genuine personality
Curious to know whether you have been a genuine person in your journey. Let me take you to a reality trip by comparing your behavior to the given list of attributes which are found in immensely genuine beings.
“To become conscious and aware, we must become authentic. Authenticity is the highest form of being.”
Are you motivated by material things: Is your happiness defined by the shiny, fancy stuff around. It has never been, but that doesn’t mean you think wrong about those who go out and stay with the trend or need stuff to show off their status— as it is culturally embedded in our societies. Your happiness comes from within, from the simplest occurrences and you totally know the list that has always given you a sense of purposefulness and richness.
Do you always pass judgment: Genuine people are open-minded, which interests others and makes them approachable. Would anyone ever want to continue a conversation with you if they notice that you have already formed a conclusion and are no more in the conversation.
You might have observed several times during your conversations. When you feel someone has already formed an opinion, you’ll immediately stop pouring in any more ideas. To avoid this happening in your conversations you need to see the problem through other people’s eyes. That doesn’t mean you start believing what they believe, but it does mean you stop passing any judgement before you understand the true ticking.
Do you respect everyone around: You might be interacting with the highest seat or anyone of your servers, that doesn’t change anything in your behavior towards any of them. You will always be affectionate and respectful. The primary mantra of genuine people is;
“No one is inferior to me, No one is superior to me.”
Genuine people treat everyone with respect because they believe they’re no better than anyone else. I was in University pursuing my undergrad when I discovered this distinction of genuineness. The University had many departments— hierarchies and directors all across the departments. Once I had a conversation with one of the directors of a different department, whom I didn’t know. I was absolutely rich in my words and ideas, which I noticed throughout the conversation. While I had always felt myself fumbling in any interactions I had with people holding senior positions in my own section. That day, I noticed the difference and started to be the same— authentic and respectful with the elimination of anyone’s position.
They aren’t hypocrites: If I had to bet, I can for this trait of genuine people, they absolutely hate hypocrisy. They practice what they preach and always strive to lead by the example. They are synchronized all across their words and actions, because they are mindful, intentional and deliberate in their actions. They’ll always try to fix themselves before they sermon others. Moreover, this trait eases their life as they don’t have to edit anything, whatever it is.
Never driven by ego: Genuine people don’t make decisions based on their egos because they aren’t driven by admiration of others in order to feel good about themselves. Likewise, they don’t seek the limelight or try to take credit for other people’s accomplishments. They simply do what needs to be done.
They never aim for people liking them: Genuine people are who they are. They know that some people will like them, and some won’t. And they’re OK with that. It’s not that they don’t care whether or not other people will like them but simply that they’re not going to let that get in the way of doing the right thing. They’re willing to make unpopular decisions and to take unpopular positions if that’s what needs to be done.
Since genuine people aren’t desperate for attention, they don’t try to show off. They know that when they speak in a friendly, confident, and concise manner, people are much more attentive to and interested in what they have to say than if they try to show that they’re important. People catch on to your attitude quickly and are more attracted to the right attitude than the network you are part of.
They are trustworthy. People gravitate toward those who are genuine because they know they can trust them. It is difficult to like someone when you don’t know who they really are and how they really feel. Genuine people mean what they say, and if they make a commitment, they keep it. You’ll never hear a truly genuine person say, “Oh, I just said that to make the meeting end faster.” You know that if they say something, it’s because they believe it to be true.
They have the courage to listen: When genuine people are in a conversation, all their energy is focused to that conversation. They listen to you and only listen instead of compiling replies while you speak. Genuine people create synchronizing harmonies and find depth even in short, everyday conversations. Their genuine interest in other people makes it easy for them to ask good questions and relate what they’re told to other important facets of your life. They know the power of an immersed conversation and enjoy every part of it.
Genuine people know who they are. They are confident enough to be themselves–embedded with authenticity. They are where you see them, and they master the control of little voice in their head. They are grounded in reality, and truly available in each moment.